Hi Feminism, it's masculinity, how can I be of assistance.

 

In early 2025, during a period of uncertainty for women in the wake of the presidential elections in America, there are two types of men in the world.

Part of the problem or part of the solution, there is no room for passengers, no room for fence sitters, but be warned: you will want to be on the right side of history here; there's no room for ifs, buts, or maybes; only absolute equality will do in this post-truth era.

Not only did we see an increase in domestic violence during the COVID lockdowns, but since then we have also seen Roe v. Wade overturned, the murder of Sarah Everard by a serving police officer, and most recently we saw the trial and conviction of Dominique Pelicot, who drugged and raped his own wife, and contacted other men to take part in his sick game.

We find ourselves hearing people like Nick Fuentes, emboldened to say, “Your body, my choice,” America, the most powerful country on the planet, votes in a rapist before seeing a woman in the White House.

"Women have had enough of our shit, and yeah, I mean me as well"

Women have had enough of our shit, and yeah, if I mean me as well, I mean you too. I have absolutely no intention of harming women; I don't harbour any thoughts of assaulting anyone sexually or otherwise, but far too often, this is exactly what a rapist would say, so I would say it's time for us straight men to suck it up, buttercup, until women can just go about their day without having to have five escape routes, expensive ear pods, books, and all the other tactical social gear that they need to get from work to home without getting accosted on the way by some creepy geezer who is “only being nice.” Just enjoy your privilege and walk away, mate.

But I forgot you don't have any privilege, do you? In your little mind, “If a woman wants sex, she can go out and get it any time she wants." That is the privilege, isn't it? Well, that's more the problem than any proof of a woman's privilege. Ask around your female friends and family how many times some bloke has refused to take no for an answer and then got all offended when that no, instead of turning to a yes, has turned into a “fuck off, you creep.”.

"So what can we do to be a part of the solution? We listen to women; that's what we can do"

So what can we do to be a part of the solution? We listen to women; that's what we can do. I'm only posting this blog post because some men have a gender-based hearing capacity. I don't intend to write a lot about the women's movement; my hope is that a man will read this and go seek out women's voices that not only know more than me about statistics but also have the lived experience of being a woman in a society that treats them like second-class citizens or objects for male pleasure, I would suggest Margaret Atwood and Caitlin Moran as a start

"I don't want to believe that every man is a potential rapist, but unless we do something to change the statistics, that's the safest opinion"

I don't want to believe that every man is a potential rapist, but unless we do something to change the statistics, that's the safest opinion, because the one sure fire way to keep women safe from sexual assault, is for men to stop sexually assaulting women, obviously it's not going to drop to zero, but if we as men have the right mindset, in a couple of generations you won't have to tell random women to smile, because they will be, because if I felt like there was a chance that I could have a life changing terrifying encounter with a man every time I left the house, I would smile way less, and I would be way less likely to want to have a conversation with someone who approaches me calling me “darlin” got into my personal space, and got handsy , I would however be more likely to kick his nuts so hard he would forever resemble a ken doll.

I have rules when approaching women. I don't know, that is aside from the rule of don't do it.

1/Only ever in an emergency (your bag is open; you dropped this)

2/ I just had to come over to tell you NO, YOU DIDN'T; FUCK OFF WHENCE YOU CAME. Nobody wants to hear opinions on their hair, fashion, or body shape from a balding, tubby twat in skinny jeans that don't cover your arse crack.

3. Never say anything to a woman you don't know you wouldn't want to hear from your cellmate on your first day in prison.

4/ It's 2025, people; use Tinder or a less threatening way of opening conversations.

5. If she comes to talk to you, speak to her like a person; don't make it weird. You don't have to make it weird; why do you always make it weird?

Actually, that last point, although somewhat in jest, is the best bit of advice: wait for her to approach you, and if you're thinking, “They never do that,” maybe that's your cue to take a look at yourself and the patriarchal society that we have been benefitting from all this time; maybe if we stop being arseholes to women, life might get a whole lot better. Just saying.

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