New year, New me?

 


Around 25 years ago, I made a new years resolution, one that I have stuck to ever since, During one of my many periods of self assessment and efforts to change, I decided that I would not be making new years resolutions ever again, and that if I wanted to change, I should just do so, and not wait for numbers to change on a calendar to do so, and for 25 years I have stuck to it, sort of, I haven't made any new years resolutions in all that time, but then again, my life has been pretty stagnant in all that time.


Change for people who have normal brains, is just a matter of making up their mind to do so, and having the fortitude to keep on keeping on, but when you're like me, with ADHD (diagnosis pending) and the constant distractions of modern life are just too much to resist, sticking to a plan is harder than it should be, especially because I forget dates very easily, unless it has something to do with something I am hyper fixated on, so forgetting when I started a new plan, be it exercise, reading more, or sticking to a work flow, I have no chance of knowing if I have given it time enough before quitting, to mark it up as a failure or file it with “things I gave a good go to before realizing I was no good at it”.


So this year, I am going to make a set of new years resolutions, and from the 1st of January 2023, I will do all I can to make and keep these changes, not everything on the list will start on new years day, but the ball will definitely start rolling.


My new years resolutions will be divided into three categories, Physical health, Mental health, and writing for my blog, podcast and YouTube channel.


Physical Health.


Its not a stretch of the imagination to assume that I have let myself go over the years, I used to be quite physically fit, I took up running at one point, I used to love cycling too, but for one reason or another I gave them all up, now I know at 50 I'm not going to suddenly get a six pack and feature on the cover of men's health Magazine, but being fitter physically, helps with the mental health.

The plan is to start slow, at least a 30 minuet walk every day to get the blood pumping, and gentle yoga to help me get and maintain a full range of movement in my old joints, laying this foundation will ease me into joining the gym and fully working out from February 1st because its bad enough that I'm going to be the old out of shape guy at the gym, without being the January noob in the gym.


My relationship with food also has to change, I am way too eager to order take out when I could be cooking good food at home for half the price and in half the time, I have to drink water too, I have a britta water filter still in its box that I have had for two years, it's time to use it, grilling instead of frying where possible, and on those rare occasions that I will be having takeout, I have to stop ordering everything on the menu I don't need to eat that much it's just greed at this point.


My weight is an issue, I am by any metric that any medical professional uses morbidly obese, I'm not going to soften the language of this because I know me, and I will use it to not lose the weight I need to lose, I want to lose 70lbs, sounds a lot, but its a marathon not a sprint, losing 3-4 pounds a week would see me achieve my weight loss goal by summer, who knows, I might even have a hot middle age man summer.


Mental Health.

That's the biggie, there is so much to unpack in the dumpster fire that is my mind, but increased Physical health, along with yoga and meditation will help with the mountain I have to climb, I would like to go to therapy, but it increasingly looks like the possibility of that happening is slim to none, so reading and podcasts will be my substitute for one on one sessions, I also know that there are toxic people in my life that I have to distance myself form, but more importantly, there are people I have to strengthen my connection with, the people who really matter to me, and more importantly, people who I matter to.


Writing.

I love writing, I love it when the flow of ideas starts to flow, but I have to get more consistent, and I need to challenge myself, This year I want to write, not just for my blog, podcast and YouTube channel, but for other outlets, enjoying writing is one thing, but the satisfaction of someone else thinking that my writing is worthy of publication is next level, so I shall be hunting for publications and web sites that I could write for.


In addition to this, I will be putting out new content on the above platforms, and really trying to grow as a creator.


I'm putting this blog post out there to give me the mental push I need to achieve what I want to achieve, but if you are the same as me and need that little extra push, follow my progress on twitter and Instagram, we can do it together.


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